Have you ever noticed how much you complain in a day? We all complain too much. Seriously. From bad weather to having no time, we have a complaint for just about anything we don’t like, but here’s the thing about complaining, it can worsen your mood, make you feel helpless, and lead to a negative outlook on life.
The Trap of Complaining
Complaining is easy. It’s a default mode that requires little effort. But it’s also a vortex that sucks in energy, creativity, and time – resources that could be better spent on creating something meaningful. When we complain, we’re focusing on problems, not solutions. We’re stuck in a loop of negativity that offers no real progress.
Of course we can’t control the weather. So moaning and groaning about it won’t do anything but fill the air with negativity. But for the things we can influence, there is an easy two step cure:
- Shut up
- Do something
4 Common Complaints and How to Overcome Them
Here are some common complaints I’ve heard over the years (myself included!), and how we can do something about it. If you’re long time follower of my content, these won’t be a surprise, but if you find yourself still saying them this is your big clue. It’s time to employ the 2-step process: shut up and do something.
- “I Don’t Have Time”: This is perhaps the most common complaint. The truth is, we make time for what’s important. If creating is important to you, reassess your priorities. Cut down on binge-watching shows or mindless scrolling through social media. Even 15 minutes a day dedicated to your craft can make a difference.
- “I’m Always Tired”: Fatigue can be a significant barrier. But often, it’s a matter of lifestyle choices. Evaluate your diet, exercise routine, and sleep habits. Small changes in these areas can significantly boost your energy levels, making you more productive.
- “My Work Isn’t Good Enough”: Perfectionism can be paralyzing. Remember, done is better than perfect. Embrace the flaws in your work; they’re what make it uniquely yours. Share your creations with the world, flaws and all.
- “I Hate My Day Job”: If your day job is draining your creative energy, start planning an exit strategy. This doesn’t mean quitting impulsively, but rather, taking steps towards a career that aligns more with your passions. In the meantime, find small ways to incorporate creativity into your daily routine.
The Power of Action
Taking action is empowering. It shifts your focus from what’s wrong to what can be done. It’s about being a problem solver, not just a problem identifier. When you take action, you’re taking control of your situation, and that’s a powerful place to be. For example:
- Let’s say you’re an artist who’s frustrated with the lack of gallery space for your work. Instead of complaining, why not organize a local art show? Collaborate with other artists, find a venue, and create your own opportunity.
- If you’re a musician who can’t find bandmates, start a solo project. Use digital tools to create and record your music. Share it online and connect with other musicians.
The Ripple Effect of Action
When you shift from complaining to doing, you become part of the solution. This not only moves your projects forward but also cultivates a more fulfilling mindset. You’re no longer a passive observer in your life; you’re an active participant.
Taking action has a ripple effect. It not only solves your immediate problem but also inspires others. Your actions can motivate your peers to move beyond their complaints and take charge of their creative journeys.
Create Something
As creators, our true calling is to make things – art, music, stories, innovations. Every moment spent complaining is a moment lost in creation. So, the next time you find yourself grumbling about something, ask yourself, “What can I do about this?” If there’s something you can do, then do it. If not, let it go and focus on what you can influence.
Remember, complaining moves nothing forward. It perpetuates a feeling of emptiness and dissatisfaction. Action, on the other hand, propels us forward, makes us part of the solution, and leads to a more fulfilling creative life. So, shut up and make something. Your future self will thank you for it.
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