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3 Ways to Be a Better Friend

In the realm of relationships, friendship is often celebrated for its simplicity and ease. Yet, as many of us navigate the complexities of modern life, the essence of being a genuinely good friend becomes more nuanced. It’s not just about being there; it’s about how you’re there.

If your friendships have been feeling a bit surface level lately, I wanted to share 3 ideas that take a little courage, but can transform casual friends to friends for life.

1. Lean Into Vulnerability

Vulnerability is the bedrock of any deep, meaningful relationship. It’s easy to share in the laughter and joy, but opening up about our fears, mistakes, and uncertainties can forge a connection that’s both rare and real. Consider this: when was the last time you shared something truly personal with a friend, not just the surface-level troubles but something that made you feel exposed?

I’m not talking just venting about a bad day, but really opening up about how that bad day affected you. It’s the difference between saying, “Work was stressful,” and expressing, “I feel like I’m not good enough at my job, and I’m scared of failing.”

For example, let’s say you received criticism at work. Sharing the event would be focusing on the criticism itself, maybe complaining about your boss or how unfair it felt. Tapping into your vulnerability involves discussing how it made you feel, like feeling not good enough or scared about losing your job. It’s about sharing your deeper worries or doubts about yourself.

Being vulnerable lets your friend see your true self, not just what bothers you, but how it makes you feel. It’s in this space of shared vulnerabilities that the strongest, most resilient bonds are formed. True openness means letting others see the real you, further fostering deep and meaningful connections. 

2. Foster Shared Growth Experiences

Growth is a crucial component of personal development, and when shared with a friend, it can become a pivotal point in your relationship. Engaging in activities that challenge you, educate you, or push you out of your comfort zones together can create memories that last a lifetime.

Imagine deciding on a whim to take a pottery class with a friend, despite neither of you having touched clay before. The process of learning, making mistakes, and ultimately creating something unique is a powerful metaphor for friendship itself. These experiences don’t just add to your skill set; they build a foundation of mutual respect, support, and admiration that is hard to shake.

3. Provide Specific, Actionable Support

We’ve all heard (or said), “Let me know if you need anything,” but how often does this result in actual help being given or received? A better approach is to offer specific, actionable support based on your understanding of your friend’s current challenges.

For example, if a friend is going through a tough breakup, instead of the open-ended offer, you might say, “Why don’t I come over with some takeout on Friday, and we can watch your favorite movie?” This removes the onus from them to ask for help and shows you’re paying attention to their needs. It’s a proactive way of supporting your friends that makes it clear you’re truly there for them.

Friendship, at its core, is about connection, growth, and mutual support. By embracing vulnerability, engaging in shared growth experiences, and offering specific support, we can forge deeper, more meaningful relationships. 

If I look at the difference between some of my casual friends, and those that are my ride or die, I find these three things were a key difference maker in transforming casual acquaintances to pillars of my life. Not every friendship will be at that level but we all can use not just a good friend, but a great one.

Until next time.



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